Wednesday, January 30, 2013

I'm Trying

I want people to know that I'm really trying to be kind and thoughtful with this new endeavor. But I still have to be me, which is to be snarky, pessimistic, and always questioning. I understand that I need to work harder on one set of qualities than the other. Please keep this in mind before you automatically assume I'm trying to roast someone over the coals or pigeon-hole them.

I had thoughts yesterday, that again, this wasn't worth it, both emotionally and spiritually. And yet my desire to blog has mostly never waned, and many folks wanted me to continue. So my hope is that this can continue without damage or regrets.

By the way, unless it's absolutely necessary, I would appreciate it if anonymous commenters would at least give themselves some sort of name or moniker at the end of their comments, as it cuts down the confusion of who I and others are conversing with.

Also, out of curiosity, I was wondering if there are specific blog posts from the old blog that any of you remember that you believe would make for a great re-post when I get busy.


  1. I really liked the Cecelia's stash items. I enjoyed reading about their history.

    Keep pmthe blogging! You were onto something in your last post about the age/life experience of readers of your blog. Somehow, I stayed with the Church even though I grew up in the 70's/80's. My former Bishop was convicted of hit and run resulting in a death, one priest who baptized one of my sons has been excommunicated, the priest who baptized my oldest is now a filmmaker in L.A. Andet, I'm still Catholic! ZBarZona

  2. I thought your last post was excellent! You have some really good insights that don't seem to even occur to other bloggers about potential flaws for the different generations and how their upbringing could affect their life and faith in the future.

    Ditto the Cecilia's Stash! Those momentoes are so incredible and they certainly don't make them like they used to... I also really like your posts discussing the QF movement or "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" and how it was gaining popularity in Catholic circles, despite some theological issues with it.

  3. I loved the last post, Char. I also liked how you posted about the age/life experience of your readers and what impact it will have in the future. It is good to question how one's faith intersects with culture and society. Being an older convert, I don't post so often, but I am very interested in reading what you have to say. I also love hearing about Alan's school. Keep blogging.

  4. Keep blogging! If you are feeling a bit overwhelmed with putting out strong opinions right now, and feeling like you have to defend those opinions, you could also write posts more as questions for open discussion.

    I enjoyed the last post. Good food for thought. I also enjoyed that Youtube link to that song. Man, does that bring back memories. I admit, I kind of miss those types of songs, they were so singable. I don't know what our music people are playing now, but I can't sing them at all. Sigh.


  5. Oh. My. Gosh. I just looked at your blog roll, and see And Sometimes Tea's latest: Is the unwed fornicator my neighbor?

    I am sorry, but I just started laughing.

    As to what to post...well, I really liked all the "chapters" of your life story...that's what got me to be a very faithful reader of Cheeky.
    P.S., I'm 56. I was confirmed at age 31, in 1988. I "missed" Vatican II/the upheaval...and have been puzzling it out ever since I guess.

  6. Your adoption story!
    Angela M.

  7. Hi, Es! You might find that "unwed fornicator" post interesting. I'm arguing with a group of traddy guys who thought a Catholic school was perfectly right to fire an unwed teacher pregnant with twins (and she lost her health insurance when they fired her). I took the "no, the school officials were being jerks" position. For the record, I'm terrible at post titles. :)

    Char, I like your posts best when you're just being your very real self talking about your struggles with the factions you encounter in the Church, the IRL ones as well as the online ones. It's a concern of mine, too, that people are too busy sorting out whether or not you're "one of them" and not just remembering that "Catholic" means "here comes everybody."

  8. Yes keep posting! I think you ask awesome questions, and they have certainly made me reconsider.

  9. I imagine you know I like the adoption posts but, other than that, I really have benefitted from your openness in discussing your struggles with doing the right thing out of love and not fear. I also love when you talk about not feeling like you fit in with the pretty, perfect ubers. I've naturally got some grit to my personality and also have not lived a pristine life so it resonates a lot with me.
    You simply can't ask the type of questions that you ask without ruffling feathers. I know you are aware of this, just reminding do your best to keep things issue/question/thought focused and I think you will be ok. Of course you need to use examples to illustrate your point and you're being careful to point out that it's not about the person mentioned...they are but an example. Keep it charitable and you'll be ok...true charity - truth in love, not twisted charity that never questions or squelches logic.

  10. I like the fact that you are unsentimental and a keen observer of life. You say what you mean and mean what you say. I agree with Red that there is no room for "official Catholic thought police". Please keep at it - I was just thinking the other day that I'm glad that you are back!

  11. Thank you everyone for all the positive feedback!

  12. This is probably off-topic, but I thought of you for some reason when I saw this post: